Posted on January 4th, 2012
The “If Only I Could Have Known” blogs are written by brides who would like to share their stories with future brides. This first one is a pretty funny one and is written by a friend who would like to stay anonymous.
The “Maid of Horror” Edition
Honor. Hmmm, now there’s an important word. You know, that word meaning “a valued opportunity to serve a worthy cause” or “a special privilege that is cherished by someone.”
Maid of Honor. Oh, now we’re getting serious. Maid of Honor, it really IS quite the title and one that not everyone gets to experience. That one female who you love above all. The one who is there to cater to your every need physically and emotionally; your confidant, your right-hand gal, your chief attendant. But everyone knows this right? Well, I’m here to tell you otherwise.
Growing up I always knew that my older sister was going to be my Maid of Honor. I love her. She is and always was my best friend. Why would I ever want to choose anyone other than her? Oh, if only I had known.
Have you ever seen that movie Something Borrowed? You know Darcy, the character that Kate Hudson plays in that movie? Well my sister, Jamie (names have been changed in order to protect the identities… and pride, of the individual), is exactly THAT girl. THAT girl who loves herself more than love itself. THAT girl who thinks everything is (and should be) centered around her. THAT girl who cannot even stand the thought of being put second to anyone or anything.
And I know you are sitting there right now thinking “Well, if you knew she was like this, why would you want her to be your Maid of Honor?” But here’s the thing, I looked past it. Even though she was THAT girl, she was also THAT girl who was always there for me when I needed her, and she was THAT girl who I wanted to be there for me on my big day! And why wouldn’t she? She knew this was going to be MY day. For once it was going to be all about me, right? Wrong. I had never been more wrong about anything.
Just to give you a little idea of what my Maid of Honor experience consisted of, below are two lists. The list to the left is some BASIC Maid of Honor duties and responsibilities. To the right are the corresponding duties and how my sister decided to handle them. Please, enjoy a laugh or two on my expense.
My Maid of Honor experience is one that I would wish upon no other, and wish I would have been warned beforehand to watch out for. So here it is. Your warning. If I could leave you with no other words of advice it would be: “Pick with Trust”. Ask yourself, is my best friend, sister, cousin (whoever she is) THAT girl? Or is she someone who you can trust above anyone to be there with you throughout your wedding process; offering her help and advice in any way she can?
In this decision, love is just not enough. You know you love them, they know you love them, but if you can’t trust em’, don’t choose em’. So I say it again: Pick with Trust, Not with Love J (ok, maybe just a little love).
Tip from ENW: We highly suggest if you have a sister that is THAT girl to have two Maid of Honors. One that is the trust worthy friend that is going to be there for you and one that is your sister because after all she still is your sister. You don’t want feeling hurt but you also need someone to be by your side throughout the planning. Most likely when your sister see’s your other Maid of Honor stepping up and being the super hero then she will want to too. Two is always better then one.
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